Hi everyone. If reading this, you probably already know that my name is Orvis and I play lead guitar (and sing) in the "Blonde Entertainment" booked band,"The Flying Toasters". If you didn't know, I am, and I do. :) Recently (Blonde Entertainment founder and president and my friend) Lisa Sauce Asked me if I would start doing a blog for her website to help keep it fun and generate attention etc. We talked about what I might put on the blog, and came up with things like current music events, features on local artists, readers polls, etc. But she also said I could talk about whatever I want. Well today is one of those days.:) I don't know why exactly, but I've been wondering what people might think about this question/subject.

                                           IS ANGER HEALTHY?

I suppose if you asked me that, I'd have to say yes and no. If something upsets in a way that provokes you to take positive action and try and fix it or make it better, I think that could be called healthy. And I think everyone would agree if your spending time being frustrated about something you have no power over, that's probably not healthy.

Anger that leads to things like frustration, rage, bitterness, distrust, and unforgiveness (among other things) is very unhealthy indeed! I suppose I may not be telling you anything you don't already know, but this is something I know about firsthand. Many of you who know me may not know that I used to have a pretty bad anger problem. (yes me) In fact, I let it get so bad that I basically had a meltdown that led to me taking a swing on a cop and ending up in jail for a few days. Friends, Jail is not a fun place to be.:) That was the worst period of my life. The one positive thing that came from it was the decision I made and action I took to go to therapy and "Anger Management" classes.In those sessions I learned that most of my anger/rage came from fear and personal insecurity, but possibly the most important thing I learned from all that is one word.....                                                   FORGIVE
Forgive others. Forgive yourself. Forgive.... Quite simply, if your holding on to anger or bitterness for someone else, you're not hurting them, you're hurting you. Author Steve Arterburn says"Resentment, bitterness, and a lack of forgiveness anchor us to a past that cannot be changed.We cannot go back and undo the damage of yesterday, but we can undo the damage it is causing today. We do that with the act of forgiveness."  Okay, I'm not even sure why I've said all this, but perhaps there's someone out there who needs to hear it. I promise more light-hearted stuff next Monday!:) In fact, I'm going to be talking about (and interviewing) My best friend Bill Hayes. You know, the Flying Toaster Drummer. with the hair!! :):) BTW, I was told by my brother if you sign up to be a follower of my blog, and also sign up for a "google reader page", the blog will automatically post to the page. Please feel free to comment and tell me (and everybody) what you're thinking. Take care friends.... :)